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Winter ABC Day 21: Don't Let My Opinions Stop You from Living!

I have never been a fan of mob psychology.

In an effort to fit in, I once summoned tears to trickle down as the rest of the form threes (10th graders), cried for an expelled senior. I was pathetic! I'm grateful that I'm an adult now. And I full embrace my stubborn nature to a fault. My opinions are like answering an A level history exam. I will weigh the pros and cons, and then come to a conclusion.

One very opinionated 'friend' of mine once commented, "You are far from basic! I actually like you because you are open minded." This coming from the same person who once called me a 'cow' who deserved the assholes that she dated. Yep!

Time and maturity has moved me from a one track mind. Instead of black and white, I see the world in the colours of the rainbow. Rarely, can any of us live as flat characters. Humanity is a little bit more complex than that. We draw circles with our personalities and general being.

I am here to stand by opinions often considered unpopular.

1. Tolerance

Racists, homophobes, tribalists, irk me to the core. Like what the hell is your problem? Why is humanity so obsessed with sameness? I am a very fussy individual who can't stand a lot of behaviours. Yet, I have learnt the art of tolerance. "Just because something isn't right for you, it doesn't make it wrong." You have the power to be the bigger person by minding your own business. Tolerance is minding your own business!

2. Abstinence

I was celibate for four and a half years, by choice. The idea of virginity, or celibacy are frowned upon. Popular culture doesn't support 'the wait'. But the wait can be the best thing in making life defining decisions. I respect delayed gratification and the process of emotional maturity. Too often we rush into sex which only leaves many of us broken, or tangled in sheets. I support the concept and intentional action of 'the wait'. I'm in the waiting room again, and this time, the consultant will have results!

3. Pro choice

What do you think about abortion? My body, my choice! What do you think about sex? My body, my choice! What do you think about nudity? My body, my choice! Mind you, I am not a feminist by any means. I am pro woman, pro choice. Society comes hard on a woman, yet few walk in her shoes. Yes walk in the heels, feel her period pain and birthing pangs. A woman should make her life choices based on her understanding of her life situation. Governments fail to run countries, yet we obsess over governing a woman's body and her choices. I don't wish struggling, single motherhood on anyone. I didn't abort, my choice! I love sex, but I'm celibate, my choice! I love nude nail polish, my choice! No woman should be forced to make her choices looking sideways. Her choices must come from deep inside herself!

4. Atheism

I'm often baffled by the obsession by religious individuals to have people share their faith. I am a full fledged Christian, but I don't need to convince someone else to believe. This line of thought is actually unpopular. I have the most stimulating conversations with atheists. I respect their point of view, yet I don't need to disgrace from my faith. God is a personal experience that can't be forced.

Opinions are personal although they can be shared communally. We don't have to all agree, but can agree to disagree. The notion of unpopular opinions is to always ask the question, 'why?' When you stop questioning, you stop learning.

What unpopular beliefs do you hold that challenge the status quo?

Always remember, that you can't grow with comfort. Try being uncomfortable!

P.S. Always write your own love story!

Ciao!

Lady E



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