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The Thin Line

'Because he is a very good....', oh no uncle, let us not even go there. Now I understand some of the things DMX was talking about in his poem,'The Industry'. I guess it is the same everywhere around the world. Cut throat!



It is one thing to be talented,and it is another to have your talent(s) exposed and making something of yourself.As an individual,you want to pursue something that you are passionate about;you are very good at,and probably you have theoretical knowledge of it and make something out it. (Earn a living). You also want to be taken seriously,earn and commend respect from different people.That is when one learns about professionalism.

Professionalism according to the Oxford dictionary,it is the competence or skill expected of a professional.In another definition, it is the conduct,aims,or qualities that characterize or mark a profession or a professional person.And my definition. Professionalism is that thin line between having to suck up to or tolerate,an individual,or individuals you can't bare to breathe the same air with,or acting out on your thoughts of those people.

In my journey,I have learnt that not everyone likes to see an individual who is either talented,or hardworking,or both,having a vision and ambition of leaving a mark on the world.So those people will ensure that you never get to where you want to be.(Dream detractors).

If they are not closing doors for you,they are stealing your ideas,or worse still,humiliating you.It is either you steal,bribe or sleep with someone to get ahead,(that is if you are even lucky enough).The industry.At this moment I stand corrected,I do not want to shoot myself in the foot.(You do not shit where you eat,unless you can stomach eating your shit).

Funny enough,this country is big enough for each and every one of us to make it.Compared to other African countries,we are really legging behind,it's not even funny.(We still have a long,long way to go).Competition is good,but this business of putting each other down,y'all it is not right.It is worse when an individual is in a position of decision making,or power,and does not uplift or empower others who are working their way up the ladder.

So here I am,with one of the many people who could 'help' me get to where I want to be,but 'we' do not see eye to eye.(Mostly on their part).I am professional.I might not like you,but if there is work to be done,or a goal to be achieved,let work be done.Personal issues,feelings,disagreements aside.Everybody wants to be a 'somebody',and have bread on the table at the end of the day.

Respect the next individual,and give acknowledgement for the talent they have,and the achievements they are making.Give due credit to individuals' workmanship.Mentor.Promote.Support.

I have witnesses who can bear testimony that I do give others opportunities, (yes,at the level that I am at). The next person's success is my success,(better yet,if I am part of the process). So when I do get there, y'all know,that I will be lifting others up,free of charge. (Just your hard work,co-operation and commitment).

So what does one do when they have detractors? Be strategic. Make powerful and influential alliances.It is not a war,but at times you have to fight for your dreams.

Professionalism.It is a thin line.....

P.S: Always write your own love story.

Ciao!

Lady E

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