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Single Ladies: What a Girl Wants

Single Ladies Part 3

Hi single ladies,I am back as your guide,as we journey through our search for Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It.

A few months ago as I was listening to radio,the dj was talking about certain ladies he 'approached' who were 'lonely'.He said he asked them why they were single,and one of them responded that there are no good guys around.She had a problem with the 'approach'.Apparently,one guy called her 'a horse'('Uri bhiza!'),and she took offence.(Did I not just start laughing my lungs out).

So the dj,(pretty twisted),took it in a certain,sexual context (typical).I did agree with him though,that there was no need for her to take offence.Right,today ladies,if you want to (really) leave Singleville,let us stop the expectation of being approached by a lip-gloss loving,flamboyant,'Prince Charming',okay!

*gunshot*Yes,I have burst your bubble,come down to earth.How do you ladies want to be approached?If I were this lady,I would have been 'intrigued' by such a statement,(okay,seems I am also twisted.)There is something called 'originality',at least in my books.

Again,how do you want to be approached?One minute ladies are complaining about how guys use ol' macking lines,or ones from movies,then when they come up with something,'original',you take offence *raised eyebrow*(I'm confused).

I think we,as single ladies,need to lower some expectations,(not morals,not standards),E.X.P.E.C.T.A.T.I.O.N.S!Let me let you in on a secret,most times prince charming does not look like a prince,because he too,is looking for a genuine princess.(Sort of like the story of,'The Princess and the Pea'.Because in a superficial,shallow-minded society,the real deal is hard to find).

Yes,most ladies are looking for,or waiting on,a handsome,silver tongued,brother,with swag,dressed to the nines,driving a flashy car,who is going to say,'You can have whatever you like!'(ching,ching*dollar signs*),right?

Or should he be tall,dark,and handsome,and riding on a horse *rolling my eyes*.(No wonder most of y'all are still single).Living in la-la land,wishing for princes from fairy tales and the charming,romantic studs from movies.They are not REAL!(That is why they are called fictional characters).

There are plenty of good guys out there,(that is why I am writing this series).'Mr Right',the 'One','Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It',sometimes,will not be a single,young,gorgeous guy,who sweeps you off your feet.He might be a divorcee,widower,baby daddy,or mama's boy,but at the end of the day,it is his intentions that matter.(*Beyonce wave* ring on it.)

I once met a certain gentleman,who approached me as an airtime vendor.I was tired,frustrated,and there he was being persistent,(and kind of annoying).But I was fascinated.The nerve to want to talk to me,airtime vendor?We talked,and I discovered that he was a prince,(not the literal meaning though,but what you are thinking).He was charming,funny,caring,and a real gentleman.Would I date him?*smiling*Of course!So imagine,had I brushed him off,I would not have known that he is a 'prince'.(Also,actually looking for a 'queen').

Now,ladies,do you really want a guy prettier than you,approaching you?The one who is termed as 'he's got game',(player).The one who approaches you in a way that portrays a scene from the silver-screen,so much,it is too good to be true!Or do you want someone who plucked up some courage,(believe me,it is intimidating trying to talk to a 'put-together' woman),and has an interesting way of breaking the ice.Better yet,the prince who does not flaunt his royalty at you,but wants you to know him for who he is.(Because to be honest,the guys who flaunt their money,and status at you,are just saying,'you are a GOLD DIGGER,a floozy,groupie',and they can have many of you,because you are after one thing,only.*ching,ching*).That is the assumption.

The approach.If a guy has not called you derogatory names,or insulted your mother,please do not take offence,if he calls you 'a horse'.Lighten up,have a sense of humour.If you are like me,laugh it off,and smile,(I have learnt to be polite to everyone,even the rude ones,because you do not know who you are talking to.)

Eldom: Every pauper,is a potential king.

So ladies,on this journey of self discovery and the quest for Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It,let us be realistic and see things for what they are.Prince Charming is definitely around the corner,just not in a suit of armour.

P.S: Always write your own love story.

Ciao!

Lady E

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