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Script My Life: In All Honesty

Honesty isn't always the best policy but it can always give closure to old books...so that you begin new chapters!



I don't always like being honest especially with myself. Every time that I have chosen to tell myself the truth, I have felt so much pain. But the truth will set you free...always! When I'm not busy trying to be a somebody or making money, I love to unwind to some good old TV. Considering that I'm often tied up, when I have free time, I binge watch series and catch up with movies. Even on my couch I continue to be a student of life and actually learning something from what I watch.

Have you ever noticed how at the climax of a movie or series, there's that part where the truth comes out. People say exactly how they feel or the reason behind their behaviour. In horror movies, the protagonist often discover the truth that will set them free from the haunting evil spirit. That had me thinking about how we in reality deal with the truth.

Contrary to popular belief, I have often kept things to myself. Actually, growing up I failed to express myself through spoken words. I have been challenged in standing up for myself and being honest. Let's not even get started when it came to relationships. With time and growth, I have found myself speaking more and more. I am opinionated! But I have felt a lot of weight lifted off my shoulders due to speaking my truth. The attitude that I have is, what do I have to lose? Well, maybe a lot or maybe nothing, but one thing that I have learnt is that you suffer more from silence.

How many times have you tossed and turned wishing that you had said something? How many times have you felt relief when you actually cussed out someone or vented your frustrations? You then realise that there is power in words.

I have watched on my favourite shows when the act of speaking changed the direction of a character's fate or the plot of the story. In the last season of Insecure, Molly told Dro that she didn't like the whole side chick role in his life. Though she may have loved him and their sex life was amazing, she realised that she didn't want  to be the other woman. Let's take the latest season of Star, where Star told her baby daddy about the pregnancy. Star gets to experience a man who wants to be present for her despite her past or bulldozing personality. I could go on about every single plot where spoken words flipped the script or changed the plot of the film, but I wont.

The relation of words spoken, written or texted change the very script of our lives. We can influence how we are treated by others by what we say. We can make or change perceptions depending on how and what we say.

Words means nothing if they have no meaning 
Words mean nothing if your actions are contradicting 
I am paying for my mistakes of too many words spoken 
Like Alicia Keys, I am a prisoner of words unspoken 
When I spoke I said the wrong words 
When I kept my silence I didn’t say the right words 
You say that the right words are uplifting 
But how am I supposed to say them to you 
If you and I barely speaking - Eloya Somaine 

Words once said can't be taken back, but why hold back words that could set you free! We need to begin to have honest conversations with ourselves. We need to be honest with others. The truth about speaking one's truth isn't about the next person's reaction to your words, but the relief of saying them.

So what you tell someone that you love them and they don't reciprocate. So what you don't like your best friend's partner. So what, if you aren't the strongest or smartest person in the world? What you will have, is a certain level of peace of mind. If anything ever happens whether negative or positive you actually won't regret 'words left unsaid'.

Whilst I do put into consideration of what I say, I do speak my mind. I have told my crushes that I like them. I have told my close friends and family that I appreciate them. Hell, I have even told that bully at work that I will no tolerate their tone of voice or how they treat me. Plus, I will go and report to HR!

Life is too short to be a prisoner of words unsaid...

Honesty will keep you from losing your mind over words left unsaid 

You never know what doors you could unlock or close when you speak. So in all honesty...say something!

P.S. Always write your own love story!

Lady E

Ciao!

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