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The Hook-Up

Rating-For the Grown&Sexy



Even intelligent people have their 'blonde' moments. I think that individuals should look up certain words and terminologies before they decide to embark, or indulge in certain activities. (Even urban lingo has a dictionary).

'You burn, you learn.I learnt that the hard way'. This is the class.The word for today is 'hook up'. What is a hook up? According to the Urban dictionary, definition 1.To receive a good favour or service.; 2.To make out with someone; 3.To have sex with someone.(Hmm).

Ever seen a fish hook? Ever gone fishing or watched people fish? There is a little worm that is placed at the end of the hook that is used to attract the fish. Bait! Now, to all y'all who do, or agree to 'hook ups', have you ever questioned the 'agenda' of the so-called 'fairy godmothers' or 'friends' who are hooking you up?

I am not talking about definition 1., where you get VIP access to a function, or show, or getting a discount on something that you have always wanted. 'Hook up' in terms of definition 2 ,3 and possibly the non-existent #4, which is, bringing two 'single' individuals with likely 'common ground', together in effort to create a potential relationship. (Lmfao!)

Hook ups. The modern version of Woodstock. (No strings attached). So really,if an individual is single, and searching for a meaningful relationship, why would they agree to a 'hook-up', given the definition above.(Guess they would have smoked something, since this is 'modern-age Woodstock')

The bigger question is,why do certain 'friends' have so much interest of 'hooking you up'? Is one so disastrous in the dating department that they need a little 'intervention'?Is one treading on the wrong grounds that they are not able to be spotted by the 'right' person? If an individual is having trouble with finding a 'good' partner,or true love, it could be one in three things, (if not all). 1.The way one markets their package. If you are a lady, you might be 'selling' slut even though you are a 'good girl', or for the guys,a complete jerk,yet you are a 'nice', maybe misunderstood guy. Or 2.It is not yet your time. An individual needs to develop their character, spend time soul searching, or work on areas of their life e.g education, money, career;or 3. It is pure bad luck.

Honestly, for a sensitive individual, who has sincere intentions, do not hook up. Friends love them as you may, do not 'trust' them when it comes to 'hook ups'. Why hand the pen to other people to write your love story? If you are a lady,female friends who want to hook you up, could either be genuine because they love you and want to see you happy, or they could be 'pimping' you out. And if it is your male friend, if he wants to hook you up with one of his boys, (or his boss), darn, you are a lamb of sacrifice going straight to the slaughter. (Scoring points). Remember the worm at the end of the fish hook?

But for individuals who are not in that 'space' of having a solid, fruitful relationship, feel free to hook up. Hook bream,crocodiles or even sharks.

Hey, there is nothing wrong with a little bit of fun,or an exciting fling. That is spontaneous,so singles who like to mingle,hook up. *raised eyebrow* Hook ups!

For the smart individuals ask questions, and make informed decisions. For those who could care less about what they could catch, do what grown people do. Hook up!

Personally like Kelly Clarkson, I 'do not hook up'. (Although shoes and music are not bad 'hook ups')

P.S: Always write your own love story.

Ciao!

Lady E

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