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Single Ladies: Independence vs Submission

'If you liked it, then you should put a ring on it/If you liked it,then you should put a ring on it.....',* Beyoncé wave *, hey ladies!Don't you think that we single ladies should have a get-together, and get all Sasha-fierce?*wink*


Yes.The quest for Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It continues.As I have shared throughout this series,that in our search,we are also preparing ourselves.(Remember wifen material).Now in this series written by yours truly,and inspired by the not-so single,'single lady', Beyoncé Knowles. (That is Mrs Carter to you), we go through some 'character' training and preparation to get to, 'I do'.

Hmm.Mrs Carter.She seems to sing a lot of these female empowering songs about being beautiful,strong and independent.Ironically, Mrs Carter when she's at home with Jay, she is different; she is to be precise, submissive. Ladies, today we discuss being miss independent versus the submissive wife. (I can already see some of y'all screwing your faces).

In a world of pro-feminism,no woman wants to hear the word 'submission'. But before we start fronting about 'submission', let us first define the word submission. Submission is the acknowledgement of the legitimacy of the power of one's superior. According to the Biblical view, it is forsaking one's own will to serve that of another.

And they look at me with piercing eyes,why the hell should we submit to a man? Let us see,if y'all have listened very attentively at weddings, when the marriage officer is ordaining a marriage, there is that portion that is declared,'.....and the two shall become one flesh.''One flesh'. Do we single ladies understand the meaning of that oneness?

It is basically meaning accountability, agreement (even in disagreeing) in decision making and that it is no longer about 'I',but about 'us'.(Those stares again). There is nothing wrong with being independent and empowered, I am all for it because femaledom is still very much exploited in a 'man's world'; however, we tend to take this liberty a bit too far. (Just a bit).

Look ladies, Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It wants a Ruth, or Esther, (y'all have to read about these ladies), not a 'man'.(a.k.a competition). Yes ambition is good, it means you appreciate the fruits of hard labour,(and you will definitely not be a gold digger); but a man needs to feel that he is needed, respected.(Yes, we have to stroke those egos).

You cannot claim to love someone that you do not respect, and you cannot respect someone that you do not love. So when one submits,they are saying that they revere the next person.We submit to God, to our parents, or elders,to the laws of a nation and to our spiritual leaders. I am saying that a man is superior, but there is headship role bestowed upon him, and that should be recognized.

Submission does not mean being in agreement with the individual, or authority that is legislating whatever command, or rules; it is saying, 'for you I will. 'I like the example of Christ in submission, because although he did not want to die,he knew he had to because he loved his father, 'Let Your Will be done and not mine.' (I'm going all Christian on y'all).

You submit because you love the next person,and it is about them,not you.Submission is not being bullied,or looked down upon,in a relationship you are just saying,'You take the lead and I will follow.'

So single ladies,the reason why B is Mrs Carter, is because girl was raised good, (although she fired her daddy as manager), but her husband,now 'manages' her 'business'. My point, miss 'Sasha-fierce', miss independent is for the workplace, for the world, (you have to be in that role), but with Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It,you submit. (If he is the 'One'. The one you want;the one you love, it will come naturally).

Now ladies, this is a question of your ego,to be independent,or to submit? For today, I leave it here. Until we meet again....*wave*

P.S: Always write your own love story.

Ciao!

Lady E


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