MPV.....my point of view!
Single Ladies: Wifen Material
*Royal wave*Hey single ladies,your guide is back.The pursuit for Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It is on.Today I would like to make you a get-a-ring-on-it lady.
Now following my articles,'Single Ladies Part 3',where I talked about the prince searching for a 'real princess',or 'Queen';and 'Brown Sugar',where the word 'brown sugar' was defined as wifen material,I would like to talk about 'wifey material'.(Whether we are that).
How do we single ladies get that ring-on-it,you ask?By being wifey material.My uncle keeps on telling me,'If you want to become Mrs X,you should be a wife.You are a wife before he puts a ring on it'.What he means is that,a man will treat you the way you portray yourself.How,you ask?
Ever noticed the difference between a wife and a girlfriend.Now let me break it down for you.A girlfriend usually,takes life in a more leisurely way;unlike a wife,whose focus is more long-term.(This does not mean that girlfriends cannot be wives).However,when Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It is looking for a Mrs,he is looking for 'wifen' qualities.
Some of the qualities I know are,a woman who can be approved of by his family,(muroora type),a mature individual,focused,laid-back,domesticated,etc.Church guys are always talking about a 'Proverbs 31' woman.(This is the actual ideal wife).
But my question is,and this is posed at the 'men' out there,what do you consider as 'wifey material'?
I ask this,because from my personal experience,I would not appear to be 'wifey material'.I am loud,opinionated and yes,YOLO is my motto.My tiny frame deceives,because I look like a teenager.(So no one actually believes that I am a mother).
So,in a situation where Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It,maybe meets me during my awkward moments,(not really awkward,I'll just be myself).What will be going through his mind?And since it has been said that 'first impressions last',what impression would I leave?
I am kind of like an onion,(many layers),and a diamond,(with many faces and sometimes rough edges),so one cannot make a conclusion about my qualities upon meeting me.I do believe that I am 'wife y material',it is only 'unfortunate' that I am perceived as less,per se.(*sad*I do want to be Mrs X).
Again,gentleman,define 'wife y material',for us single ladies.How does a lady portray the 'good wife' without being an actress,(cause y'all there are some women who deserve Oscars for the 'pretend wives').Does she have to wear a french maid's uniform and a feather duster to show that she is domesticated;or be good pals with Jaime Oliver to prove her culinary skills;or should she wear a church uniform to prove 'saint-hood'.And then there is that terrible,but catchy song that 'curses',us beautiful women,'....if you wanna be happy for the rest of your life,never make a pretty woman your wife....'.Seriously???(And what if I am the total package;beauty,brains,and character,am I to be labelled as a 'troublemaker';and not be justified as 'wife y potential'?)
Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It,you meet single lady in an LBD on her girls night out,(perception:slut);she is always dressed to the nines,(perception:high maintenance);she dresses modestly (and probably is an accountant/marketer),(perception:boring);she has piercings and/or tattoos,(perception:freak,or wild);or she has a mind of her own,and she speaks it,(perception:feminist,or bully).Yes,visual perception,with misguided expectations which lead to incorrect assumptions which cloud Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It's judgement,so single lady misses out on her chance of being Mrs X because of that.
My definition of 'wifey' is woman divinely chosen for a certain man.She suits him,like a hand in a glove.She is not perfect,but she is willing to learn.She is woman with vision but understands that 'Rome was not built in one day'.Not having OCD,but ensures that cleanliness is next to Godliness,(a reflection of the deity realm where she came from).She understands the dynamics of life,relationships and family,so she will make effort to compromise so as to keep the peace.And yes,her man is King,so she will desire to make him happy.(Each day of their 12 000 days of marriage...'til death do us part'.)
So single ladies,let us be the 'wife'.I think that working towards being a Proverbs 31 woman truly makes one 'a good thing',(He who finds a wife,finds a good thing).However do not act,remember that you have to be real,true,and 'outstanding',so as to win 'the bachelor's' heart.(Be the she who 'surpasses them all').
We end here today,until we meet again single ladies,(or should I say 'wifeys'),our quest continues.....
P.S: Always write your own love story.
Ciao!
Lady E
NB:Follow my blog,'MPV.....my point of view!' at www.therealladye@blogspot.com
[c]Copyright MPV by Lady E All Rights Reserved 2013
Single Ladies: Wifen Material
*Royal wave*Hey single ladies,your guide is back.The pursuit for Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It is on.Today I would like to make you a get-a-ring-on-it lady.
Now following my articles,'Single Ladies Part 3',where I talked about the prince searching for a 'real princess',or 'Queen';and 'Brown Sugar',where the word 'brown sugar' was defined as wifen material,I would like to talk about 'wifey material'.(Whether we are that).
How do we single ladies get that ring-on-it,you ask?By being wifey material.My uncle keeps on telling me,'If you want to become Mrs X,you should be a wife.You are a wife before he puts a ring on it'.What he means is that,a man will treat you the way you portray yourself.How,you ask?
Ever noticed the difference between a wife and a girlfriend.Now let me break it down for you.A girlfriend usually,takes life in a more leisurely way;unlike a wife,whose focus is more long-term.(This does not mean that girlfriends cannot be wives).However,when Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It is looking for a Mrs,he is looking for 'wifen' qualities.
Some of the qualities I know are,a woman who can be approved of by his family,(muroora type),a mature individual,focused,laid-back,domesticated,etc.Church guys are always talking about a 'Proverbs 31' woman.(This is the actual ideal wife).
But my question is,and this is posed at the 'men' out there,what do you consider as 'wifey material'?
I ask this,because from my personal experience,I would not appear to be 'wifey material'.I am loud,opinionated and yes,YOLO is my motto.My tiny frame deceives,because I look like a teenager.(So no one actually believes that I am a mother).
So,in a situation where Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It,maybe meets me during my awkward moments,(not really awkward,I'll just be myself).What will be going through his mind?And since it has been said that 'first impressions last',what impression would I leave?
I am kind of like an onion,(many layers),and a diamond,(with many faces and sometimes rough edges),so one cannot make a conclusion about my qualities upon meeting me.I do believe that I am 'wife y material',it is only 'unfortunate' that I am perceived as less,per se.(*sad*I do want to be Mrs X).
Again,gentleman,define 'wife y material',for us single ladies.How does a lady portray the 'good wife' without being an actress,(cause y'all there are some women who deserve Oscars for the 'pretend wives').Does she have to wear a french maid's uniform and a feather duster to show that she is domesticated;or be good pals with Jaime Oliver to prove her culinary skills;or should she wear a church uniform to prove 'saint-hood'.And then there is that terrible,but catchy song that 'curses',us beautiful women,'....if you wanna be happy for the rest of your life,never make a pretty woman your wife....'.Seriously???(And what if I am the total package;beauty,brains,and character,am I to be labelled as a 'troublemaker';and not be justified as 'wife y potential'?)
Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It,you meet single lady in an LBD on her girls night out,(perception:slut);she is always dressed to the nines,(perception:high maintenance);she dresses modestly (and probably is an accountant/marketer),(perception:boring);she has piercings and/or tattoos,(perception:freak,or wild);or she has a mind of her own,and she speaks it,(perception:feminist,or bully).Yes,visual perception,with misguided expectations which lead to incorrect assumptions which cloud Mr Put-A-Ring-On-It's judgement,so single lady misses out on her chance of being Mrs X because of that.
My definition of 'wifey' is woman divinely chosen for a certain man.She suits him,like a hand in a glove.She is not perfect,but she is willing to learn.She is woman with vision but understands that 'Rome was not built in one day'.Not having OCD,but ensures that cleanliness is next to Godliness,(a reflection of the deity realm where she came from).She understands the dynamics of life,relationships and family,so she will make effort to compromise so as to keep the peace.And yes,her man is King,so she will desire to make him happy.(Each day of their 12 000 days of marriage...'til death do us part'.)
So single ladies,let us be the 'wife'.I think that working towards being a Proverbs 31 woman truly makes one 'a good thing',(He who finds a wife,finds a good thing).However do not act,remember that you have to be real,true,and 'outstanding',so as to win 'the bachelor's' heart.(Be the she who 'surpasses them all').
We end here today,until we meet again single ladies,(or should I say 'wifeys'),our quest continues.....
P.S: Always write your own love story.
Ciao!
Lady E
NB:Follow my blog,'MPV.....my point of view!' at www.therealladye@blogspot.com
[c]Copyright MPV by Lady E All Rights Reserved 2013
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