Mutual Stalking

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Mutual Stalking.

My sister is a genius.(Oxford please take this down).She has come up with a new term,'mutual stalking'.The definition:when individuals are keeping tabs on each other without directly communicating with one another.(Ummm, okay).

Mutual stalking.Is there such a thing?Can individuals stalk each other;and actually know about what the other person is doing.Yes,it is possible.Though I find it rather juvenile,cowardly and of course,darn creepy.

Mutual stalkers are constantly up to date with each others lives.They know the movement of the next person,where they have been,or are going,their health status,their mood.Okay this sounds like a very dysfunctional relationship.

Why stalk somebody?If one feels they 'need' to be in touch with somebody,why not just call the other person,text them,or,pay them a visit.Apparently I am in a 'mutual stalking relationship',(oh,heeell no!).First of all,I do not stalk.If I want to talk to someone,I send a friend request or follow,(on twitter),I call,email,text or even send a message on whatsapp. If the other individual does not respond,or they ignore me,I let them be.

So this means that person can marry,leave the country or even die,and I would not know about it.(Unless I hear it through the grapevine.Seriously).No,I am not a stalker,but I do have stalkers.(Some sell themselves off.*raised eyebrow*).

People should just step up,grow up,(and maybe grow some).If you have interests,or even issues with someone,reach out to them,talk to them,COMMUNICATE,otherwise you might as well commit yourself into a psychiatric hospital for antisocial behaviour.

And please,please do not download a person's pictures without their permission.(If they want to send you their pics,they will do exactly that,...if you ask.)Stalking is stalking,whether it is mutual or one-sided.Please no horror movie-loony bin behaviour.

Talk.Do not stalk. Danke.

P.S: Always write your own love story.

Ciao!

Lady E

www.therealladye@blogspot.com

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