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Swagger Like My Daddy

Here's to my King from my King!


For every Queen, there's a King. Last Friday I talked about the women who influence my ambitions and inspire me, but it is the combination with the male version of them, that inspires me more.

As a young, single lady, who is on the market, of course, there are qualities I search for in a partner. To me the most important thing is obviously, connection. Connection goes beyond the physical, it is mental, emotional and even more, spiritual. And I have learned that like terms do attract more than opposites when it comes to relationships.

Somehow couples have to 'mirror' each other, share the same vision, have complementing or matching ambitions, and just 'get' each other even without verbal communication.

Wouldn't it be so refreshing to find someone with whom you do not have to try so much to improve? You just fit like a hand in a glove.

So what does Lady E want? Someone like me. Intelligent, down-to-earth, ambitious, has personality, is spiritual, yes, has a good fashion sense (as shallow as it sounds, I prefer a metrosexual man), and of course, is just fun. Yes, there is more to a person, and that's the really interesting part of a relationship—the daily exploration and discovery.

I read an article entitled 'Who would you be without him?' and it got me thinking about the women who inspire me. Who was Beyoncé before Jay-Z? Who was Michelle before she became the First Lady? Can Posh be anything outside of a W.A.G.?

The answer is that they were all women making their personal dreams come true and have established themselves to the point that even without their other halves, they can make it in this world. After taking a test in the article, the results came out: if I were to be with him', I am an upgrader or balancer.

Beyoncé is an upgrader. Last year, she and Jay-Z were ranked Forbes second-most powerful couple. She is a hard worker; she is talented, but her elevation was catapulted by being the lady in Mr. Carter's life.

Michelle, on the other hand, is a balancer. She matches her husband's status and ambitions. They both were together in law school and have been together through Barack's time as a senator and two terms in the president's office.

And Posh Becks is my style icon. She and David must be the most stylish couple ever. Those two literally mirror each other, from the clothes to the hair styles to the ability to manage four children.

But it is not the 'superficial' aspects (money, status, clothes) of these couples that I admire most, but the 'clicking'. Barack and Michelle are like best friends; Bey and Jay are laidback, and Vic and David are each other's cheerleaders.

To me, I would like my 'him' to be someone I look to for inspiration. Obviously, common ground and vision are important, but the ability to have that certain individuality would keep things interesting. And as a 'couple', being a force to be reckoned with would obviously be more rewarding.

But everything begins with oneself. Every woman should first achieve her own ambitions, have inner strength and self-assertion, and have self-love and value. She should be herself, whether or not there is a 'him'.

And when she finds a 'him', of course, as it has been said, the 'two shall become one', compromise, borrowing tastes and likes from the other, will happen, but there should always be that individual X-factor.

'When we step onto the scene

People ask me, who's he?

They ask him, who's she?

He tells them, she's the female version of me

I tell them he's the image in the mirror that I see

I've got swagger like my daddy

We're both eye candy

And I'm his baby

We both got style

I match his fly

His shirt is polo, my shoes are Manolo

He takes the lead, and I just follow

We both got ambition,

His my inspiration,

I'm his motivation

Together we make the best combination.....'-Lady E(Swagger like my daddy)

Ladies be the best you could ever be. Know that you have got the power and be that one kind of lady, when your man sees you(that is if you have one),he just says, 'Oh my, there she goes.'

Happy Women's Day!

P.S: Always write your own love story.

Ciao!

Lady E

Copyright[c] MPV by Lady E All Rights Reserved 2013

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