Life isn't science that's why there are no formulas...
Yet we expect everyone to go through life like the copies of the same textbook.
It's easy to condemn someone for not having their act together. Often when you expect very little from specific individuals, you persecute them. As I write this blog, there are thousands of people going through tough times and bound in silence. Someone right now just lost their job, another person is now homeless with an overdue rent debt. Schools are about to open and coming up with school fees is proving to be an immense challenge.
I've been open about my current life situation - it's been hard. I remember bumping into a former colleague in a supermarket. We had a brief catch up a session; she was doing well; I wasn't. With pain in my voice, I mentioned that it's been hard, not to mention that I looked like crap. But I don't think she cared, we were never friends like that. But today I reached out to one of my close friends.
I knew that I had to break the ice and speak to someone before I lost it. With a tearful voice, I sent him a voice note. I felt a weight lift off my shoulders. Like the good friend he is, he reassured his position in my life, as my friend. I needed a friend, I needed somebody that I could trust. There's a saying that goes like this, "Of the people that you share your problems with, 60% won't care, 40% will laugh at you and 10% will listen.".
I often find it difficult to open up about my personal struggles. I trust very few people - actually they are the fingers on one hand. A lot happened in my lifetime to get to this point. I previously shared my difficulties with female relationships. This stems down to relationships with female relatives and losing my mother. My father, grandfathers, uncles, and many male cousins have always been my support system. Rarely judging, offering sound advice, and always being my cheerleaders, they contribute to the woman that I am. Yet, I walk around with a weight on my shoulder and sorrow in my soul.
When I reached out to my friend, I knew that I was stepping out of my comfort zone. That zone is of paranoia and distrust. Even as a person of faith, one can find themselves in
The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear. The oldest and strongest fear of mankind is the fear of the unknown. HP Lovecraft
P.S.: Always write your own love story!
Yet we expect everyone to go through life like the copies of the same textbook.
It's easy to condemn someone for not having their act together. Often when you expect very little from specific individuals, you persecute them. As I write this blog, there are thousands of people going through tough times and bound in silence. Someone right now just lost their job, another person is now homeless with an overdue rent debt. Schools are about to open and coming up with school fees is proving to be an immense challenge.
I've been open about my current life situation - it's been hard. I remember bumping into a former colleague in a supermarket. We had a brief catch up a session; she was doing well; I wasn't. With pain in my voice, I mentioned that it's been hard, not to mention that I looked like crap. But I don't think she cared, we were never friends like that. But today I reached out to one of my close friends.
I knew that I had to break the ice and speak to someone before I lost it. With a tearful voice, I sent him a voice note. I felt a weight lift off my shoulders. Like the good friend he is, he reassured his position in my life, as my friend. I needed a friend, I needed somebody that I could trust. There's a saying that goes like this, "Of the people that you share your problems with, 60% won't care, 40% will laugh at you and 10% will listen.".
I often find it difficult to open up about my personal struggles. I trust very few people - actually they are the fingers on one hand. A lot happened in my lifetime to get to this point. I previously shared my difficulties with female relationships. This stems down to relationships with female relatives and losing my mother. My father, grandfathers, uncles, and many male cousins have always been my support system. Rarely judging, offering sound advice, and always being my cheerleaders, they contribute to the woman that I am. Yet, I walk around with a weight on my shoulder and sorrow in my soul.
When I reached out to my friend, I knew that I was stepping out of my comfort zone. That zone is of paranoia and distrust. Even as a person of faith, one can find themselves in
The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear. The oldest and strongest fear of mankind is the fear of the unknown. HP Lovecraft
The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear. The oldest and strongest fear of mankind is the fear of the unknown. HP Lovecraft
P.S.: Always write your own love story!
Ciao!
Lady E
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